An adage is a wise saying with an important fact of experience, that is taken as true by many people. Some would argue that adages come from how people behave and because the same pattern has been repeated for a very long time, they are believed to be true.
There are several common adages such as: better safe than sorry, better late than never, you reap what you sow, you need to look before you jump, do not judge a book by its cover, no man is an island, opposite attract, early to bed, early to rise! Be careful what you wish for because you might get them. One of my all time favourite is that you can lead a horse to water but you cannot force it to drink it. I see this as giving someone an opportunity but you cannot force them to take it on. As a life learner, who sees learning as an important factor in life, I totally understand this adage; you can teach pupils new information but you cannot force them to learn.
Another good one of mine is: the apple does not fall far from the tree! This saying, applies that we are very much a product of our family and our environment. Indeed we are very much like our parents, a child possesses similar character and personality like his or her parents. I have observed some traits of mine in my children; I would like to think they have inherited some determination from me too!
Adages are similar to proverbs (wise words) but they focus on the nature of human beings.
There are several adages that I have heard my elders say growing up, that have stuck with me and helped shaped my values; some examples are "one bad apple spoils the barrel", referring to having the right friends around and being intentional about maintaining good healthy friendships. I still apply this adage in my life and career because I have had experience of one staff member ruining the mood of my entire team or the project at hand. This leads me to another adage that states "when the going gets tough, the tough gets going" This particular one has helped me cope with life challenges, as it reminds me that when a situation gets difficult, only those with a strong character, will stay determined to succeed. When you fall down, dust yourself and get back up. The bible scriptures says, "a righteous man falls down seven times and gets back up!" It is part of life to be knocked down but we should refuse to stay down! We should remind ourselves to never give up.
"Great minds think alike" is another good adage I tend to use in the work place, whenever I commence a new project and decide to brain storm my colleagues! It indicates that intelligent people tend to come up with the same kind of ideas. It is also a way of noticing that other people are just as smart as you are.
As a parent and a nurturer, I tend to use the adage "Birds of the same feather flock together"
This is a reminder to my children to be careful who they spend their time with. This is because peers with a similar interest would tend to be together. I remind them to be sure they interact with honest, hardworking and pleasant friends because they would become who they spend time with. Therefore, making the right choice of friends, is the wise thing to do!
As a wife and a mother, dealing with times spent away from my loved ones, I use the adage "absence makes the heart grow fonder" this indicates that we miss time with our loved ones when we are away from them. The start of the pandemic year in 2020 was evident of this adage, as families across the country testified they missed each other, as they remained in lock down. Thankfully, the lock-down is easing now and we are allowed to mingle with a small number of people, which is a step forward from this time last year.
Finally , I do apply this adage when I face obstacles in achieving my goals "When there is a will, there is a way" This helps me find alternative ways to accomplish the target I have set myself. This is because I will have to find a way to get the task completed, no matter the obstacle that presents itself.
What are the adages that help you navigate life's journey?